One of my favorite pleasures in my life experience was raising my daughter and over 30 foster children. Children have the unique opportunity to learn, to grow and to fashion a world in their minds which shapes their development into adulthood. As a play therapist, social worker, and parent trainer, there are several suggestions I provide parents to help them raise healthy children.
The following is a list of resources I have found over the years which have been helpful to me.
One of the worries parents’ present is on the emotional and mental well being of their children. As parents, we want our children to be:
- emotionally healthy and strong,
- to know how to manage their emotions,
- to experience joy,
- to manage feelings of self-doubt, anxiety
- to maintain healthy friendships with others.
This article reviews some important principles to be aware of as parents. Sometimes in trying to “protect” our children from harm, we can actually do harm. As you review this list, write down and reflect upon any behaviors or emotions that you may have experienced as a parent.
Reading this quote, made me laugh but also reflect. How many times have I tried to shield children from pain in numerous ways. Pain is inevitable. I experience pain, you experience pain– but what we do with pain is the key to our resiliency.
The job of a parent is NOT to get our child to stop crying as quickly as possible. Tears are a sign of parental success, not failure.
This article sums up: the job of a parent is to:
- Provide comfort through the frustration.
- Draw out our child’s cleansing tears.
- Show empathy to our child’s struggle.
- Allow the life lesson to be learned naturally—not through preaching.
- Support our child’s journey through the emotional tunnel.